From time to time i get a call from an exhausted and frustrated “Non-Bride” Bride. It starts out with “I just have to say, I don’t want the Ballroom, frilly flowers or silly dances. I want a great time for my family and friends and I need to know you are not going to make me do anything I/we don’t want to do and I don’t want to go broke doing it!?”
Of course i LOVE hearing this because I truly feel that weddings and events are not “Cookie Cutter”, that each and every Bride that walks through my door deserves to have the wedding of their dreams. Whether that includes BBQ’d dinner or no dinner at all, an elephant or dogs as ring bearer, no questions asked your wedding day should be about you and your fiance and who you are as a couple.
Brunches, cocktail and dessert receptions or parties with a ceremony are all perfectly acceptable ways to plan your day, you do not have to justify that to anyone, especially me! It’s your day, celebrate it the way you want to! It is certainly not my job to tell you what to do, just merely help you make it YOURS.
Don’t get me wrong a love a beautifully lit room, with fine linens and centerpieces dripping with flowers, but I find the same beauty in a great venue, food, and fantastic company. I have assisted just as many incredible nuptials without all the smoke and lights, it all just comes down to your priorities as a couple.
So, so what you didn’t spend your tweens planning your perfect wedding to Brad Pit or Zack Efron. So you didn’t decide on cala lilies vs. orchids at age 10, now you have the opportunity to create your wedding just as you like in the here and now. I mean did you really want that wedding cake with the frilly bridges and colored water streams? Yeah, I didn’t think so.